Two weeks ago, I got a really horrible phone call. It's one of those phone calls you really don't want to receive when you're planning a wedding.
My florist is going out of business.
I mean, really, truly out of business.
They were kicked out of their building. At the end of the month, they will cease to exist. The best part? The florist in charge of my wedding flowers -- and the one who held our detailed plans for those arrangements -- already "abandoned ship," if you will. She quit immediately and found a new job, taking the details of my arrangements with her.
I had to start all over with just the bare bones of what I knew. I wanted yellow flowers, daffodils or gerber daisies, and a good amount of green and white filler. I want my table arrangements in mason jars, with polka dot ribbons. That's it. That's all I remember. The names of the filler I picked out? Nah.
On Saturday, I dropped off a sheet with the basics of what I knew to a new florist. I had talked to the wedding specialist the week before and she told me to drop off my information and she'd call me Monday. Monday passed -- no word. Tuesday passed -- no word. I started to get really panicked. My wedding is in June -- JUNE -- which is not only close, but a really common wedding month. Um, I need flowers. I need flowers.
The hardest part of life, really, is adjusting to things that are unexpected. I have a hard time relinquishing control of things, especially when it comes to things that I've already decided are happening. It's hard to realize that, despite my best efforts, things might go haywire. Even after I have it set in stone, it might not be for other people. The florist can go out of business. The photographers could change their mind. The venue could burn down. Something can go wrong.
The important thing is to never expect the worst all the time -- seeing the worst in everything isn't the best for anyone's mental state. It's also important to realize that even when things go bad, things could always be worse. You might have a cold during a busy week; your florist might go out of business; your car might break down. But at the end of the day, I still have a roof of my head, food in the fridge, and a warm bath waiting for me at the end of the day.